Nonverbal communication is really important to me when I'm talking to someone; it helps me understand their words better for some reason. For example, I have found that sympathy is only taken sincerely from people if i can see how they physically respond, not just verbally. It's like the saying, "actions speak louder than words." I do think gender has something to do with it, yet on the other hand, some men are more better than women when it comes to expressive nonverbal communication. Women tend to be more emotional, and according with EL, more observant of nonverbal communication. Culturally, communication varies so greatly throughout the world that I wouldn't be surprised if the was the number one factor of nonverbal communication. Countries with great populations and minimum spaces are always in tight spaces with other people so naturally when they come to American we feel invaded, misunderstand their intentions, when they stand really close in the line at Walmart. I have had that happen to me way too many times. I have to remind myself when i start to get annoyed, that they may have different cultural background. When I do speak about something that I feel strongly about, negatively that is, I really have to watch my tone and my word choices because I really get myself into some sticky situations if I don't. My mom knows me too well and she calls me on my word choices, making me explain exactly what I mean. I guess you could say, I'm carelessly about my words sometimes, not really thinking about the effects of them. If I get really busy at work my patients ask me all the time if I'm having a bad day or if I'm mad, apparently I don't smile and look pretty mean. I'm working of that really hard, I can't have my patients thinking I don't like my job (I might not continue to have a job). I have taken three communication classes and nonverbal communication is a must-have skill to succeed. You don't really realize how essential it is until you make a conscious decision to be aware of it, you depend on it from other people. Nonverbal communication has even been tested to make significant differences in babies. Babies that spend most of their time in cribs versus babies that have human connections by touch were far better off. It is proven that touch can change lives. Non verbal communication in relationships are very important, especially male-female relationships. You always hear of men misunderstanding women. It is portrayed in the media all the time so comically because it's the truth. I don't think the opposite sex can fully understand one another, however, who says anyone can fully understand another being, according to "Bullshit"?
I have always been taught that actions speak louder than words. I agree with that phrase more than anything in the world. I could say the nicest thing but show attitude with my arms crossed. I have the same problem with my mother she knows me way too well. It gets on my nerves sometimes. I too have to watch my tone. I will try to hide the fact that I am actually hurt and say that I am good but people can always tell by my facial expressions and the way I hold myself. I hate nonverbal communication sometimes. Other times I feel that it comes in handy that I am able to show how passionate I really am about something.
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